Sh#@ happens. We’ve all had our fair share of it, or even more than our fair share. Regardless, it’s part of life. There will be obstacles, roadblocks, failures, heartaches, headaches, letdowns, disappointments, blunders, transgressions and other assorted impediments to what we think we want. For the most part, though, these situations come with an immense opportunity for growth, expansion, insight, and clarity, but only if you allow it.
If you don’t allow the learning, if you get mired down in pointing the finger, finding fault with others and blaming, though, you stop your forward movement in life. You stop your ability to recover. You may have heard the expression, “Every time you point your finger at someone, there are three pointing back at you.” When you point your finger at someone or something with blame, you’re also impeding your ability to heal, grow, learn and move on. You’re impeding your ability to be in the present moment. You’re impeding your ability to be at peace within.
When you blame. You stop your ability to accept and allow. You stop yourself from receiving the gifts of forgiveness. You give away your power over your Self and your world, especially your inner world. You say that your inner peace is a result of something outside of you. You say that the object of your blame has power and control over your emotions and your life. You deplete and diminish your ability to make choices, to be the author of your life.
When you get stuck in blame of any kind, even of yourself, you close the door on your ability look within and see where you need to grow and change. You close the door on your ability and opportunity to have a real impact on your inner world and truly improve your life. You disallow your ability to see what you can do to help yourself emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally through the trial of the moment.
However, when you hold yourself accountable for how you react, how you look at life and the things you focus on, when you step out of playing the victim role you open up a vast expanse of opportunity for healing, acceptance, allowance, forgiveness, for movement in the direction of your choosing. When you step out of blame, you make a conscious choice to move on. You give yourself permission to be present and to choose from a place of accountability, self-responsibility and forgiveness.
When you stand in a place of accountability and responsibility you reclaim power and dominion over your life, your world, your Self. You regain the power to say how you experience life. You regain the power and ability to be in the present moment and to claim your sense of inner peace. You regain the knowledge of who you really are.
It may not be an easy shift but it is definitely worthwhile. Try it for yourself. Share your experience in the comments below. Your story can help others make the choice.
[…] how you experience life. You regain the power and ability to be in the present moment and to claim your sense of inner peace. You regain the knowledge of who you really […]